All Things Psychological
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Jul 8th, 2010
We tend to ignore or take for granted the little things we do every day, those familiar rituals like making coffee in the morning, taking a shower, listening to the sounds of the house as it wakes up with us, or opening the windows to let the new day in.
Our minds seem to be focused [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication, intimacy, marital affair on Jul 3rd, 2010
It is important to remember that in most cases affairs are symptoms of something deeper that is going on in intimate relationships, of which couples may not have been aware. And here is where I can see the silver lining. The affair is such a shocking event in their lives that couples cannot ignore it, [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Mar 29th, 2010
We have all experienced it at one time or another in our lives: we made a life-changing decision –we decided to get married as soon as we graduated from High School; move away from our families; have children, not have children – and later we regret these decisions and wonder what life would have been [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, marital affair on Feb 12th, 2010
Only 35% of couples with marital infidelity stay together. Hurt, humiliation, disappointment are very powerful feelings that often lead to blaming and attacking. Depression, anxiety and fear can occur following the betrayal. Trust is gone. There is a deep feeling of loneliness and shame, and concern about the future. Partners often don’t know how to [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Jan 3rd, 2010
Here we go again. One more year coming to a close; another that will soon begin. We tend to conceive of things as having a beginning and an end. This gives our lives and endeavors a sense of completeness and encourages us to look ahead. This time of the year is often a time of [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Dec 11th, 2009
You are in pain. You have been experiencing difficulties getting up in the morning. You dread the thought of facing another day. No matter what you say to yourself to feel better – “you are going to be all right;” “this is just a temporary situation;” “you have been in worse situations before” – you [...]
Posted in communication, stress management on Nov 25th, 2009
The Lesson to be learned.
Even though a situation of disagreement can cause tension and discomfort when parents and adult children are together, it is important not to become defensive, but keep an open mind and open communication.
When parents and adult children’s views clash, let’s remember that there is some truth in what parents are seeing, [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Aug 21st, 2009
“People don’t come preassembled, but are glued together by life. And each time one of us is constructed, a different result occurs.”
-LeDoux
I would like to start a series of posts on how brain and mind develop from one another. We begin with a description of the basic physiological underpinnings of our mental lives – [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy on Aug 15th, 2009
All intimate relationships are supported by two pillars: Intimacy and Safety.
Intimacy implies both closeness and communication (Holmes, J. Attachment, Intimacy, Autonomy, J. Aronson, 1996.) The more we communicate with one another, the closer we get. The closer we get, the easier and deeper our communication. Intimacy develops gradually, as couples share personal information of an [...]
Posted in communication on Aug 12th, 2009
Standby, we are making way for a fresh new way of communicating with you, straight from Dr. Roher’s Office!
